Day 2: Love Doesn't Work The Way I Thought


I was talking with my Aussie friend, Nicole, today, when I realized that love doesn't work the way I thought. I used to believed in true love. That one person will find his/her partner to settle down happily ever after. Build a family, grow old together, as seen on Disney movies.

But love is not that simple. We need to experience a lot of opportunities and rejection. We might find our crush often, but then they don't have mutual feeling as we do. They have a feeling towards someone else, who has a feeling towards someone other else.

On the other hand, we refuse or at least ignore people who like us, but don't attract us. Even if they already confessed their feeling, he/she is not what we are looking for. Isn't life unfair?

So we stuck in the circle or condemned cupid arrow. Our feeling is just a one way signal, no feedback received. I've been there so many times before. But I was too focused on how many people that rejected me. And I forget the numbers of people who want me to be theirs.

We tend to be with someone we like that is one galaxy away, rather than to be with someone who already next to us saying they love us. Probably we think that our admirers will always be there and it is too easy if we want to reach them back. But our lovers are challenging.

Then here's the question: why don't we just fancy a person who coincidentally fancy us? We just flirt the one who has mutual feeling? We only fall in love once, with the person who is our destiny, til the end of time? Wouldn't it be beautiful, fair, just, and no one's hurted?

But again, that's not how love works. So how? I don't know yet.

One thing for sure, it is important to keep everyting in a balanced situation. Either to chase your love or accept your admirer. We may seek something further but keep in mind you have to be grateful for having someone who likes you.

- Grand Indonesia, January 10

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  1. Hmmm really interesting to talk bout it in depth way, I'm agreeing some points. Before, I wasn't as that interesting to talk bout it, love is illusion or even worse. Haha, so when there was some friends talk bout it I'd rather act like a deaf person. Yeah, that's true love is more complicated than just mention L O V E. It's hurt a lot, sacrifice so much things, sharing what we have, throw away our selfishness etc. If you keep saying, love ya to yr bf/gf all the times but still cheating, hurting, being shitty or another sucks stuff maybe you need to ask yr brain. Is it love or bullying?

  2. You tapped into something for me. This is a good reminder to stay grateful for those that admire us when we're in a relationship too.. It's too easy to take your partner for granted!

  3. Such an interesting thing to share. Thank you so much! Yes, I truly agree with you, Rio. It makes me rethink, that why I don't try or do! to fall in love with someone who actually loves me unconditionally, for their love is more sincere than the other. Such an enlightenment!


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